Great practical steps to make your marriage exciting which is a must read for every one who is in marriage. To enable you succeed and enjoy your marital home. In fact there are many steps or ways you must take in life, to enable you achieve the best success. These steps will help you to live in peace and harmony with your partner without any mistake of any kind or finding fault. And also it will help and guide you to enjoy your marriage to the brimful without tears.
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Phycal maintenance
Take care of a fig tree and you will have figs to eat, servants who take care of their master will be honored. Unknown
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Communication
How do you communicate with your spouse at home? What types of communications are you communicating with him or her? Do your spouse feel good, happy during your communication? What are you complaining or others are saying about your relationship with your spouse?
In fact, these are the basic questions you must ask yourself as soon as you married. You are communicating with your partner in order to know her or him very well or better. You are communicating to your partner for more love improvement. The more you keep on communication the more both of you fall more in love. And you are doing that in order the love in your marriage continue burning as far as there life in you. You cannot know dead person better but the living. You see communication did not end in varbal conversation only but it involves writing letters, sending emails, text messages. And it involves eating, drinking, sleeping, walking, take bath together, etc. What shows that God is alive and answering prayers is communication. Any day God ceases from communicating to His children that day problem begins. So communication of husband and wife are so important and vital and day communication ceases trouble enter into that union immediately. Communication of husband and wife involves drawing something on the ground and drawing board. Everything you do must be for sake of love maintenance.
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Presents
Giving each other presents is also very important. Giving tangible gifts to your spouse always helps to strengthening the love and trust in your marriage. Gifts giving is a sign of mutual caring of each other. Because it’s a person you loved and trusted so much you will map out time and your resources . And go to the market or superstore and purchase exactly what the person needs or like most as gifts and present it to her. In order to show the person that you really love her dearly and also to make the person feel good, accepted, add more value in your relationship with her and at the same time make the person feel at home with you always.
Recognition of your partner birthday
To make your love keep on following you must recognize your spouse important dates, such as birthday, wedding anniversary and school graduation dates, including child’s dedication and birthdays. And offer well presentable gifts which will make her hug you again and again. Gifts scare away bad feelings in the heart. It makes you to forget wrongs done very quick.
Gifts to give
You don’t just give gifts but you must give very exciting ones such as flowers, clothes, greeting cards, wrist watches, necklace, bangles, vehicles, etc. As your hands riches don’t steal to please your partner. No! God forbid that!
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Finance
Finance, money is so important in the family and in the life of you and your partner. When I say finance, I mean cash or physical money. From time to time learn how to give your spouse money for personal use only. Whether he or she ask you or not. That’s why you should study your spouse very well through communication. Especially women because at times she may feel or think that she is disturbing you so much. As a result she may not ask you to give her money. Because she is always asking you money and you are giving it to her. So at times she can feel disturbed not to as you. But such feeling is not good, it can cause her to start looking outside to get money. Remember the words of King Solomon he said in book that money is a defense. However to avoid her not to look outside, set up a date of giving her cash, either weekly or monthly. Enough money that can make her to feel at home and reject outsiders’ funds or offer. And also do not forget this fact it’s lack of mot having 💰 money is the roots evil.
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Picnic
Picnic is a day set aside as a happy day, a day of playing together outside your home. A day of rejoicing and recreation of full love maintenance. Both of you choose in order rejoice together and visit some recreational parks in the city or outside city. A place that will make you and spouse feel extra ordinarily good and excited in life. A place you will not quickly delete from your memory because of you what have experienced there that day. Couple that see new things always remember it and reshare it again and again. Outings with your partner helps in building strong relationship between both of you. So learn how to set a day out for picnic only and call it a day of having joy and happiness in your marriage.
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Humility
Humility is so important in the life of both couple, always adopt a humble 💓 heart or attitude towards each other. Do not feel so pompous in the presents of your partner, but see and take your spouse as your equal in life. And always cherish your partner with all manners of humility. However arrogant life destroys, disfigures and kills and equally separates marriage. Therefore prayerfully avoid it before had I know which is words of regret.
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Love maintenance
Your lips cover me with kisses, your love is better than wine, my lover is mine and I am his. Unknown
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Sexual story books
Sexual story books or videos are also important in maintenance of marriage. As soon as you got married, you are hundred percentage free to purchase sexual intercourse story books and videos which contains sexual activities. The books will help you and your partner to know more about sexual activities in life. And to enable you serve your partner your sexual organ very well whenever he or she needs it. However sexual intercourse has many ways and styles of enjoying but if you fall to buy the books and videos. And study or watch you will not serve your partner sex well. You see nothing pass education in everything. And it has many languages to speak when you are enjoying your partner’s organ. Many couples have divorced and their marriages scattered, simply their partners left their own partners and tasted another persons. Another persons served them sexual intercourse better or more beautiful than theirs at home. From there they prefer having it outside and come home and loss interest of having urge of it. So learn how to please and satisfy your partner on the bed always. So nobody will be able to teach you all about sex easily execpt the marriage counselors.
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Sexual activities discussions
You do not need to discuss or chat sexual matters with kids, but you must discuss it, chat it very well with your partner. Your wife or husband in the house only and on the bed when enjoyment is taking place. Discussing of it will not make you unholy rather it brings feelings or urge which brings the action of the really sexual intercourse. You see if you are not enjoying your spouse always, it means that you are not discussing it in the house with him or her.
However may be your partner’s system is not in order, even though when you are enjoying your spouse’s organ you need to let him or her know. How really you are feeling, how it’s sweeting you and how it is making your body to be like. This reminded me someone who says that when ever he inserted or plugged his penis into his wife’s vagina, his body will be as if he is in heaven already here on earth. And another woman said that his husband doesn’t have money but with his manhood she is satisfied. So I do not know exactly how your partner’s organ sweets you on the bed during the business of sexual intercourse.
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Romancing
You cannot enjoy your sexual activities without romantic expression which is romancing each other first. The movements of your hands and your mouth at your partner’s body rouse his or her sexual systems very well. Which makes both of you have correct or right feelings of sexual urges to have it immediately. The most important aspect of sex is not only plugging your penis into woman’s vagina. But it is romancing, kissing, fondlings and hugging your partner sensitive areas first before the proper sexual intercourse takes place. Your romantic systems make the sexual intercourse wonderful and special to both of you. Have you ones look or watch at 🐕 dogs making love before? You will see that male dog never reserve any part of it’s body while making love with female dog. The same thing with female dog it’s duty is to fall on the ground any of her part the male dog needs for their enjoyment of sex.
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Sexual performance
Well, sexual intercourse activity is not a thing you will do in hurry or with annoyance but it is something you will do with cool and relax mind. As a thing of happiness, and a thing of commitment to some one you love with your life. It’s never a thing of hatred or hit and run affairs many singles do. Neither hidding from people not to know that you are having sexual intercourse with your partner whenever you need it. It’s maint for married people legitimately not for marriages their parents always curse them whenever they remember them. And which also gives birth of disobedience children on earth. Children without legitimate foundation. However sexual intercourse was created by God for reproduction of mankinds here on earth. And it’s also for reconciliations of cases, misunderstanding, or conflicts in the family between husband and wife. And for enjoyment of showcasing to each other their nakedness. Which nobody on earth can see Except two of them. Therefore do not deny your spouse his or her right of sex in your union at home. Always enjoy it and keep it holy. Do not welcome the sexual abusers or Interlopers with their money into your marriage. The holy thing is maint for holy people like you.
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Spiritual maintenance
O Taste and see that the Lord is good, blessed is the man that trusted in him
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Prayer and Fasting
The power to protect your marriage are praying and fasting. It’s a maintenance of your relationship between you and your God and for your spiritual protection towards your life and your marriage. Praying and fasting together make your marriage unique and differentiating your family from others. Because it spiritual unity, love and peace of mind in your marital life. And that will make both of you to be more spiritual and strong in spirit always. Whosoever that wants to serve God of heaven and want God also to be with you, you will not be eating to your satisfaction always.
Whenever the enemies plan against you, or want to destroy or kill you. They wouldn’t because of your prayers and fastings. Therefore keep on praying and fasting always at least once a week or month. It’s written by prayer and fasting you can pull down 🗻 mountains before you. And through it you can make every impossible possible both in your life, marriage and business. God has never failed or disappointed or abandoned those that trusted, replied and believed in Him before, he will not start it with you and your family.
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Read Bible and christian books
One of the weapons which you and your partner should make use of to equip your spiritual life always is christian books which includes the Holy Bible. You see there is no other way you can maintain your spiritual life or build your faith, except reading it. And applying it practically to enable you learn how to quote scriptures into your problems. Which will give you power to over come the devil just as our Lord Jesus Christ quoted it and conquered him. It’s written all things are possible to you Who believed
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Attend church services
It is written that Iron sharps Iron, that is to maintain your christian life or spiritual life lies much on the church you are attending. Not just attend church . But you must be committed in both church activities weekly including revivals and other spiritual programs which will make you become untouchable by demons. And evil arrows your enemies are fearing to you, unknowingly to you and your partner.
You see when you are praying and fasting always you are putting your God at work, to work for you. And he will be fighting your secret battles for you unknowingly to you. Jacob never knew or have any idea that famine is coming but his God see it ahead of him and brought solutions to it. By taken Joseph to Egypt before all of them. So God is still doing that to those who trusted in Him. So be committed, join groups in the church and support the works of God financially. And do not make time to listen to church gossipers and fault finders in the church so that they will not destroy you and your future.
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Business engagement
Sees you a man diligent in his business? He shall stand before kings, he shall not stand before mean men
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Money making
In any business transaction the major aims and objectives are money making. And for you to make money in this world, you must engage yourself in one business or the other. And for you to meet up with your financial obligations at home, you must be a business some one. So you and your spouse must engage in one, to enable you not lack anything money can buy in life and at home. Many marriages have been destroyed business both of them were idle, doing nothing, as a result no money and no food to eat talking of giving children. Even no money for house rent and for clothing. And no money to travel and solve other pressing problems at home. Iact of money is really evil not having it as I said earlier. So it’s not good at all for one of you be idle. Two heads are better than one, it’s in good condition not bad. So that if your husband runs bankruptcy then his wife can take over the responsibility at home. And if it happens death occur unexpectedly, hungry will not kill the remaining partner and the children. It’s written whatever your hands find doing, do it well.
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Be always busy
keep yourself always busy, because idleness is devilish office, when you are idle, jobless, no money is coming into your pocket and there are numerous problems at home to solve. You will never feel alright nor be happy or excited by no means. When you are jobless you are uncreative in the society , in such mood your reasonable friends will excuse you and see you as liability. However during that period evil imaginations will occupying your mind or inner being. Within that time whatsoever your spouse does to you, you will not feel excited and you will not take it easy as a laughing matter, but as an insult and quarreling matter. And something you laugh at before you will see it as an offence to you because of your idleness. You start cursing, beating and fighting. So at your home do not introduce nor encourage such idleness life no matter what. If your partner is doing nothing and he or she is always at home, it’s dangerous. Your neighbors will not look at her or he as a reasonable person. Which may be causing quarreling, fighting with other neighbors in the apartment every day. Keep yourself and spouse busy always, both of you can manage the same business. A woman wanted to join her business and stay in the same shop. The husband saw it as uncalled for. And advised the woman to stay at home and take care of the children. Within a short period the man died and his servants do away with the man’s business and finance before the woman knew it. That’s a great mistake the man made.
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Societal respect
People in the society respect you because you deserve it, through appearance and your creative activities, if not nobody respect fools on the streets. You see when you are busy with your business nobody in the society will underrates you. Because you are not begging nor borrowing, rather you help in contributing your quota in the society, by elliviation of people’s problems. So whenever something abnormal happens there no one will quickly lay accusing finger on you as the cause. That brings honor to your person and your partner. It makes people in the society to respect especially for your commitment to yourselves and the community.
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Characters every couple should possess
i, Behave like a child
Always behave like a child to each other at home, do not mind who married each other or spent much money in the marriage or wedding day. But apply servanthood or child’s character both of you shall enjoy your marital home and put extra. Children do not keep malice neither bear grudges nor bear negative things in the mind against another.
ii, Trust worthiness
Trust worthiness is so important in the marriage life of every couple. When you behave like a child faithfully your parents will trust you, trust whatever committed into your hands. Your parents will believe everything you will tell without doubts of anything. Each of you should set up examples which will make you to trust each other and believe each other that none that can another lies. Any marriage without trust it must collapsed.
iii, Be teachable
You see, you must be teachable and learnable always. Instead of quarreling and fighting even nagging your spouse for everything mistake he or she will make . Teaching is better, teach her or him so that next time she will not make that mistake again. That attitude of teaching one another will increase love and peace in your marriage.
iv, Forgiving 💓 heart
In your marital life forgiving heart is very crucial and vital always because no partner is perfect on earth. Each of you must adopt forgiving heart of spirit always instead bearing malice or grudges in mind against each other. Whenever your spouse offend you, you immediately say it out, and accept your faults and say please I am sorry. It’s not a deliberate or intentional acts but mistake. So with meek or humble heart forgive that wrong immediately and forget it. No one is above mistake or to say sorry to another.
v, Faithfulness
Faithfulness into your marriage is unnegotiable with any other people out there. Because the way or manner you put your bed you will lie on it. You should be faithful to each other in everything you are doing in life with your spouse. If you have being telling others lies it should not be your husband or wife at home. Both in money given out for an important assignment, or in any other things. Give correct accountability on it to avoid distrust and breakages of love.
vi, Self control
Control yourself always, whatsoever you tell your spouse that you will not do, do not it at absence. And that you cannot do at partner’s face and don’t do it at his back. In terms of fighting , quarreling control yourself before you kill her or him. Many have injured their spouses because lack of self control. Be careful and avoid all manners of fighting each other. Self control is very important, maintain it so that nothing will mar your marriage in life.
vii, Loving attitudes
The key of everything marriage is love. Therefore you must adopt the spirit of love, loving heart towards your spouse. Love her face, speech, ideas and contributions in the house. Love everything your partner does, even though he slaps you angrily, hold yourself. And do as if nothing happens. That idea will help to build more love and confidence in your marriage. And show love in everything your love is doing, cooking, washing, sweeping and taking care of kids show love and concern on her.
viii, Encouragements
All about life of marriage is encouraging one another. Always encourage your spouse in whatever he or she is doing or going to do which is for betterment of family. Embrace every her ideas with happiness and joy, speak good and kind words that will make her or he laughs , touch and hug her including her her lovely names, honey, my only love. This encouraging attitudes will make the marriage become stronger.
ix, Reliable
Do everything you can to make yourself reliable to your partner likewise your partner. This reliability will even attract other people to love your marriage and start imitating your character including using you as an example in their various homes. Reliable in marriage makes both couple to work hand in ✋ hand.
x, Wiseness
All the time show Wiseness in settling issues at home, not in gambling your spouse. Be wise in listening to people who want to destroy your marriage and handle it with care and well. And again be wise in your business to avoid failure that will lead your beautiful family into hungry in future. Because future is pregnant no one knows what it’s going to deliver, but we can predict it by taking good actions and steps. And be wise in your expenditures, do not spend carelessly because you are the one bringing funds in the house not your spouse. Because every careless expenditure cannot bear good fruits and it cannot come back. It has gone and it has gone. Please spend wisely because of tomorrow.
xi, Compassionate
All the time show compassion to your spouse especially when his or family members have an issue, such as ill health which requires your or concerns or assistance. Do not laugh as if you are laughing at her poor conditions. That caring when in bad condition spark more trust into your marriage life.
xii, Speak positively
Speak positively, from time to time tell your spouse that it’s well, no skin pain even when everything is lost. Inculcate peace, love and hope in her or him. The time you see your spouse crying do not add salt into the injury, but add cool and ice water in order to bring lost mind home. Even when there’s no food at home, tell him that food is on the way coming, money is on way coming. Whatever you believe is what you see coming to your house. Speak wisely and positively and do not compare your spouse with another out there because God and luck are not the same.
xiii, Be patient
Always be patient with your spouse, do not be in hurry with her, don’t force her to do that which she doesn’t want. Even do not compel her to speak when she chooses to keep quiet.
xiv, Be honesty
Always be honest, say truth to her daily and let her know you with it. Some one went and told my wife about my negative life. My said no, you are lying my husband cannot do that. Can your spouse defend you? Can your spouse be bold enough to say that my wife cannot do that thing you said he did? Then if you cannot defend your partner at home you are living with, then who else can?
xv, Be committed
Always be committed to your partner and everything in the family. Never you leave your responsibility in the house for her or him and go outside and sit with other people crossed legs and fold your hands and watching what he will do next. If you try that you have decided to mar your matrimonial home, by then you have let satan in which is not easy to sweep away with ordinary broom. Please avoid all the avoidable to keep your marriage moving forward.
xvi, Spiritual commitments
Earlier I have taught on this on spiritual maintenance which focus on praying and fasting , which are paramount, as the only way you can show God that you are committed into your marriage with Him. Without God protecting, guiding and controlling it you can’t. And if God is not fighting for you and your family you can’t. May God bless and help you always.
Avoid those people that have eyes to see faults of your partner, but blind to see good opportunities coming to him or her
7 Facts Singles Should Know
a, Great minded people discuss ideas and inventions, Good minded people discuss events and histories and small 🐈 minded people discuss their neighbors and criticisms.
b, Never you associates your marriage with small minded folks that discuss please, because they marriage destroyers and spouse snatchers.
c, Do not love your spouse because of his handsome or beauty, but if you do, if beauty fails tomorrow. What next?
d, Do not love your spouse because of money or material things, but if you do. If money and materials varnish tomorrow. What next?
e, Love your spouse because of inner good characters, even it can still fail you, if you let it, your attitude changes another attitude.
f, Love your spouse because he or she left her or his own parents, and siblings and marry you for life or death. As the best person ever living in the world.
g, Love your spouse because God loves you and joined both of you together as an individual. And God decreed that whatever He joined together in your life, let no one put asunder.
Yes don’t cause quarrel
Finally do not forget this fact, it’s said that what causes problem at home is no, but yes don’t. Therefore learn how to say yes in everything even when you are suppose to say no. Later you adopt the life styles of Jesus’ apostles. They took Jesus outside and asked, Master what stopped us from casting out that demon from the child suffering lunatic or healing him? And Jesus replied to them at cool place. Because of your unbelief. So after saying yes you will go to your bedroom and tell your spouse the reason you said yes instead of no that time. Both Good talk and back talk with your 👂 ears you will hear all, but don’t permits bad talk to destroy your marriage. .
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